TakingChances

how does it feel to be married? what are your expectations towards your spouse? will these expectations will soon wreck the boat?

although i’m single, living together with a married couple (my brother and sister in law) with kids, somehow opened my eyes on the irony of marriage life.

kdg2 terpikir, once married dan have children, seseorg tu dh x dibenarkan pursue their hobbies ke? should family will always be number one, all the time? what about time for yourselves? lps kawen, there’ll be no more “me” time ke? if that’s so, hell i’m scared. but of course, my brother’s love for golf telah over the limit, and i wish i can tell him to slow down a bit, for his children mmg sgt perlukan a father character in the house, not a bread-winner.

being a constant listener kat umah pon agak saket lah. i want to voice out opinions, tp mcmane aku nk kasitau, kalo in the end, i’ll be given remarks e.g. i’m never married so i dont know these kinds of feelings? how do i tell her that being a housewife, her children should be well fed, well groomed? bukan ke setiap anak patot bgn pagi, mandi dlu before makan, dan bukannye bgn, basoh muke dan trus mengadap tv? kalo budak tu dh jadik mcm tu, salah budak tu ke kalo die dh melekat dgn attitude mcm tu? should a person give up in giving instructions to their kids?

bukan ke pagi lps mandi, children should be given breakfast at least like 9 am, pastu lunch by 1pm like that? pastu mkn ptg dan dinner? lps masok hospital, baru nampak berubah kasik bdk2 tu mkn nasik instead of chips and asam and biscuits, just because malas nk masak utk x berape ramai org. how do i tell that too much tv like now has affected the family badly? dah xde mende lain besides tv to calm children down ke?

i can’t remember how i was when i lived with my mother, but i remembered those days mase makmbone jage me and my sister. tv boleh ditonton cume sampai pkl 8. lps tu mandi, mkn, masok bilek tgk buku. regardless lah buku ke ape, tp ddk je la dlm bilek tu. so lama2, dh bosan, i picked up the habit of reading lah. aku penah kene sound by my sister in law whenever i give examples of cara makmbone jage kitorg. she said makmbone bela cuma kitorg 2 org je, and lgpon dh besar. hmm.. what about anak2 pak lang jit yg makmbone bela dr kecik? bukannye sorg dua. mcmane pulak dgn berderet2 bebudak yg nyang jage? sambil2 tu, ajak la tlg2 kat dapur or other chores.

am i thinking of an ideal family which is impossible to achieve?